Everyone Says the First year is the Hardest

We keep hearing this.  From all over the place, wedding blogs, friends, family, etc..  We were prepared for things to be more difficult once we got married because we heard this over and over.  It isn’t.  The other day I said to my mom “are we doing something wrong?  Are we not taking it seriously enough?  It’s supposed to be hard… and it isn’t “.  Everything is the same as it was before we got married… only better!!! 

I guess I hadn’t really thought about it until I started talking to a friend who has been married for a month.  She is unhappy… super unhappy.  That idea is completely foreign to me.  I was under the impression that everyone feels the way Mr. G and I do…  at least for a while after they are married.  It makes me sad to think that that isn’t the case for everyone.  It also makes me extremely thankful for my relationship.  We are so happy.  Everything is so easy.  EVERYTHING!  Even I think it’s strange… in the best possible way!  I can’t imagine being happier than I currently am.  Well, that isn’t entirely true.  I would be happier if I saw my husband more.  He works in politics and it is election season so he works 7 days a week and until late at night.  Only for a few more weeks!  We both knew that it would happen that he would have to work A LOT come election season… we just didn’t know it would be so hard!  I am proud of how hard he works and how completely committed he is to the cause!  It is a running joke with him that he uses the quote from The Godfather where he says ” this is the business we’ve chosen”.  It’s true, and I chose him!

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I’m a little bummed.

There are some days that I end up being a little sad about how things worked out.  Today is one of those days.  I am so excited to be married to Mr. G, I just wish things had happened a little differently.  We don’t at all regret the decision we made.  Of the choices we had, this was definitely the best.  It just makes me sad that I won’t ever get to wear a giant, over the top wedding dress and that I won’t get to implement all of my good ideas.  We had our brunch this weekend and it was wonderful, but at the same time it made me a little sad.  It’s hard when you are doing a seating chart and you realize that you only have 3 family members and a brother in law coming from your family.  Sometimes it just stings a little.  Not too much, just a little.  I’m sure as time goes on it will happen less often.  Maybe we will throw an awesome party for our 5 year anniversary.

My DIY Bouquet!

For some odd reason, I have always wanted to do my own wedding bouquet.  It’s not like I have any specific affinity for flowers or experience with floral arranging.  I think it is just something new for me to try and I knew I could do it.  It was just an added bonus that it would save us money.  I had originally planned on making my bouquet and the bridesmaids so when plans changed, I still wanted to do mine.  I was super excited to do it.  My mom and I went and bought the flowers the day before the wedding.  I knew that I wanted mostly yellow and definitely sunflowers.  We spent less than $50 and had more flowers than I needed.  I went home and Mr. G was an excellent assistant for me while I assembled them.  He held them while I added and subtracted flowers.  This is what we came up with!

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 I am so inlove with them!  I was (and am) super proud of them.

I was so excited that I found the perfect locket on etsy.

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As I have said, I was bummed (understatement of the year) that my grandmother was not going to be there with us.  All I could do was make sure I had her there in spirit.

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Short of her being there, this was perfect.

I’m just going to throw this picture in because I like it!

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I am so excited that I was able to do my flowers.  I’m also excited that they were fantastic!!!

Eloping… is that the right word?

I wrote a previous post about how Mr. G and I eloped.  I happened to use that word in conversation with him and he was SHOCKED!  “Is that what we did?”  Um… yeah!  But then I was thinking… and maybe not.  The definition given on dictionary.com is to run off secretly to be married. Hmmm… there was no secret.  We just didn’t announce it and got married in city hall with 2 weeks notice.  I’m still a little torn.  Eloped or not?  Who knows?!?!  We are married that’s what matters!

Family… Who knew it could be so enjoyable?!?!

 

I have a family.  A version of a family.  Every one has some semblance of a family.  I have a mother that I am closer to than I ever thought possible.  She is a wonderful person.  Supportive and amazing.  I have two sisters as well.  One lives fairly close to my mom (2 hours from me) and the other lives in Minnesota.  We don’t really have any extended family.  My grandmother was also amazing, just like her daughter.  She passed away about a year ago and there went my feeling of “family”.  It’s sad.  I always wanted to be that family that had weekly dinners and laughed and ate.  That wasn’t us.  I love my family but there aren’t alot of us.  Since I started dating Mr. G I have felt a whole new kind of family.  His parents are fantastic.  I love them both soooo much.  And his sister is hilarious.  She is roughly our age and I adore her.  His grandmother is 90 years old and the sharpest person ever.  Additionally, he has an extended family as well that has welcomed me openly. 

His parents live much closer to us than my mom so we go there often on the weekends.  This weekend we went because I was working on my centerpieces for the brunch that is quickly approaching (more to come on those).  We had a fantastic dinner and his mom hung out with us outside for a while and it was awesome.  I think alot of what makes me feel that “family” vibe is that his parents are still married.  My parents got divorced when I was about 10.  It was for the better.  I love going there and seeing them still laughing and having a good time together after more than 25 years!  I want that!!!  Mr. G and I will have that!

I’m so excited to have more family!!!

Our Wedding!

It seems strange calling it a wedding.  It most definitely was not what you think of when you say the word wedding, but it was ours and it was perfect! 

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Amidst our planning process, after being engaged for 3 months, I called Mr. G at work one day and said “are we doing anything the weekend of June 19th?”.  Obviously, the answer was no.  “Excellent!  We should get married on that day.  Can you make that happen?”  Mr. G works in government so it was his job to find someone to marry us.  Apparently they don’t normally marry people on Fridays.  Huh, weird.  He made some calls and we had a friend, who also happens to be the mayor of a near by town, marry us.  It worked out wonderfully.  We gathered a few friends up and alerted our families.  Our families were super excited we were getting married and they knew that we were having some difficulties planning the wedding so they weren’t too surprised.  In the next few entries I will share specific details of our mini wedding!

Change of Plans! We eloped!

So things don’t always go according to plan.  In our case, it was just a huge amount of stress and issues with financing that changed our original plan.  We decided that we would just go to town hall and get married… so we did!  It was wonderful!  I took the Watters and Watters dress that I already owned and altered it to be tea length.  It was perfect for the occasion.  Everything about how our wedding turned out was wonderful.  In the small amount of time I had to make some plans there were a few details that I was able to pull together that I am in love with.  

First, I did my own flowers and they were amazing (if I might say so myself). 

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I’m pretty impressed with  my floral arranging abilities! 

I said in a past post, that I wanted to have a locket with a picture of my grandmother pinned to my flowers.  I got my locket and it was perfect!

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This next picture is my absolute favorite!

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Who knew that it would be so difficult to find yellow argyle dress socks?!?!  It was totally worth the work!

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Everything was perfect!  I am officially a Mrs!!!

The Dress

 
The sample dress I bought.  Made by Watters and Watters.
The sample dress I bought. Made by Watters and Watters.

The instant I got engaged all I wanted to do was go wedding dress shopping.  I am one of those girls that would wear a formal dress 100% of the time if it was socially acceptable.  So the idea of a wedding dress was oh so exciting!  I found out about a week after I got engaged that Priscilla of Boston was going to be having a sample sale the following week.  I wrangled a friend to go with me and took the day off of work.  I had read so many horror stories about sample sales that I was prepared for it to be a disaster!!!  It opened at 8 and we arrived at about 8:15.  It was totally calm.  There were only maybe 5 other brides there.  It was well organized and not chaotic at all.  I tried on a ton of dresses and ended up finding one that I really liked.  Additionally it fit me perfectly.  I figured that I would buy it and if I ended up finding something else I liked more, I could sell it on Oncewed or Weddingbee.                                                  

 

I wanted the experience of dress shopping.  You only get to do it once!  So I went shopping in NYC with my mom and future mother in-law.  We went to a place called RK Bridal, which I really liked.  It’s not a super high end bridal boutique.  It’s kind of like a big wedding dress warehouse.  We looked through the hundreds of dresses and I tried a bunch on, including the one I already bought.  I was glad that I got to try it on for them.  I didn’t find any dresses that I was completely in love with.  We went to another place called Bridal Garden which is a non-profit that sells designer samples. Ugh!  I hated that experience!  It was crowded and tiny and not worth the time we spent there!  After the fact, there was one dress I couldn’t stop thinking about but it hadn’t been on my shortlist so I didn’t know anything about it or who made it.

The following week I went shopping with my future mother in-law and my future sister in-law.  There I found a dress that I loved.  It was made by Casablanca and it was soooo flattering on me and it made me feel like a bride.  I was excited but sad because my mom didn’t see it.  Luckily, when I went shopping with her the following weekend the bridal salon had it!  I tried it on for her, along with a bunch of others, and despite the fact that she didn’t love it, she loved it on me.  

This was the first dress that I thought I loved... until I tried on the other one!

This is the Casablanca dress that I thought I loved... until I tried on the other one!

They also had the dress I couldn’t stop thinking about.  I tried it on again and I was disappointed because I loved the top but hated the bottom.  It was too fitted.  I went on to Maggie Sottero’s website and was SUPER excited to find that the dress comes in 3 different skirt styles!!!  Including one that is big and flowey!!!  There was a bridal salon that had that dress as a sample near by and I was excited to try it on.  Again, I went with my FMIL (mother in-law) and tried on a bunch of dresses, making sure that one was last.  OH MAN!!!!  The second I put it on I knew.  I got that feeling that everyone talks about.  It is unbelievable!!!  I’m trying to find a store near where my mom lives so that I can show it to her… which is hilarious because she will hate it!  Se is a lot more about simplicity than I am.  I think I onlyget to get married once and I only get to wear a ridiculous over the top gown once!!!  I think what I am most excited about is that the bridal salon I went to that I liked the most (Bridal Suite of Hamilton)can order the dress for me and it’s a great price!!!  I had such a great experience there!

THIS IS THE DRESS!!!!

THIS IS THE DRESS!!!!

I will keep you updated on my dress situation!

The Proposal!

So I think I should start by telling the story of how Mr. G proposed to me.  When we first started hanging out, we went to the beach all the time.  As a matter of fact, the first time we hung out we spent hours at a diner talking about everything and then went and watched the sunrise on the beach… even though it was 35 degrees! 

On the one year anniversary to the day we met (March 4th) we were going to go to the beach after class.  It had just snowed and we thought it would be nice.  I had class after work so it was late by the time we headed out to Jones Beach.  We were all bundled up and excited to walk on the boardwalk.  When we got there all of the parking lots were blocked off!  We were bummed but oh well.  Once we got back to the apartment Mr. G said “I was going to do this at the beach but I guess the place doesn’t matter.  This is for you”.  He handed me a hard cover journal and told me to read the first page.  The page was dated September 31, 2008 and it said (roughly) “I decided today that I want to marry you.  You make me a better man and I love you.  I will write in this book until the day I ask you to marry me.  If you are reading this you know it means I want you to be my wife.  Will you marry me?”  I looked up and there he was with a  ring more beautiful than I ever could have imagined!  I cried!  Yes, little Miss Tough Guy cried.  After I said yes I looked through the journal and he had written in it almost everyday for the entire 5 months before he proposed to me!  They were letters to me.  Sometimes about his day, sometimes about the reasons he loves me and sometimes about nothing at all. 

Of course, when I called my parents to tell them my news, they already knew because in standard good guy fashion, he had called both of them to ask permission.  My dad apparently said “Sure, but you know she’s smarter than you right?”  I thought that was hillarious… especially since Mr. G said “Yep, I know that”!!

My lovely lovely ring!

 

I thought I should put in a picture of my ring, which I couldn’t possible love any more than I do!  Mr. G is beyond fantastic for choosing this ring!  Everytime that I look at it I can’t believe that it is mine!!

So that’s it for the proposal!  He’s amazing and I’m sooo excited!

Hooray! I’m Finally Starting a Wedding Blog!!!

I have been thinking, and occasionally talking, about starting a wedding blog for the entire 2 months that I have been engaged.  I have so many ideas about things I might want to do so I want to post everything here.  I think it will help me stay organized and keep me on track.  I have a bad habit of being all over the place.  After Mr. G proposed to me he told me that I drove him crazy with engagement rings because there wasn’t one style that I loved.  I liked tons of designs and none of them were similar (he managed to pick the perfect one).  The same thing happens when I go wedding dress shopping.  I love them all!!!  So again, if I post my ideas as I go I can see what I gravitate to and maybe give some other people some good ideas!  I hope you enjoy!