Our Butterfly Wedding Cake!

In a previous post, I wrote about the inspiration for our cake.  These two pictures pretty much sum it up.

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Butterfly Cake

I was anxiously awaiting the arrival of our cake.  Mr. G’s friend Meg was arriving nice and early to drop it off.  I was upstairs when he called up to me to say that she was here.  I ran down stairs and there she was!

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I was soooooooo excited to see it and it was totally awesome!!  Before we put all the butterflies on it, this is what it looked like.

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My oldest sister helped me open all of the butterflies and figure out how I wanted them.  Then I went to work putting them on the cake.  It stressed me out a little having to poke the wires in to that perfectly smooth and amazing cake.  What if I messed it up?!?! 

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Finally, I finished putting all the butterflies on the cake.  I went a little crazy with the butterflies and ended up having way more than I needed.  My mom walked around and put a butterfly in each of the centerpieces.  It looked super cute.  This is the final product!!!!

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We were both so happy with it.  I couldn’t possibly thank Meg enough for how amazing it was!!!  To make it even better, it was super tasty!  Vanilla cake with orange buttercream! 

The cake was exactly what I wanted!!!!  It was PERFECT!!!


I’m a little bummed.

There are some days that I end up being a little sad about how things worked out.  Today is one of those days.  I am so excited to be married to Mr. G, I just wish things had happened a little differently.  We don’t at all regret the decision we made.  Of the choices we had, this was definitely the best.  It just makes me sad that I won’t ever get to wear a giant, over the top wedding dress and that I won’t get to implement all of my good ideas.  We had our brunch this weekend and it was wonderful, but at the same time it made me a little sad.  It’s hard when you are doing a seating chart and you realize that you only have 3 family members and a brother in law coming from your family.  Sometimes it just stings a little.  Not too much, just a little.  I’m sure as time goes on it will happen less often.  Maybe we will throw an awesome party for our 5 year anniversary.

My DIY Bouquet!

For some odd reason, I have always wanted to do my own wedding bouquet.  It’s not like I have any specific affinity for flowers or experience with floral arranging.  I think it is just something new for me to try and I knew I could do it.  It was just an added bonus that it would save us money.  I had originally planned on making my bouquet and the bridesmaids so when plans changed, I still wanted to do mine.  I was super excited to do it.  My mom and I went and bought the flowers the day before the wedding.  I knew that I wanted mostly yellow and definitely sunflowers.  We spent less than $50 and had more flowers than I needed.  I went home and Mr. G was an excellent assistant for me while I assembled them.  He held them while I added and subtracted flowers.  This is what we came up with!


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 I am so inlove with them!  I was (and am) super proud of them.

I was so excited that I found the perfect locket on etsy.

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As I have said, I was bummed (understatement of the year) that my grandmother was not going to be there with us.  All I could do was make sure I had her there in spirit.


Short of her being there, this was perfect.

I’m just going to throw this picture in because I like it!

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I am so excited that I was able to do my flowers.  I’m also excited that they were fantastic!!!

Eloping… is that the right word?

I wrote a previous post about how Mr. G and I eloped.  I happened to use that word in conversation with him and he was SHOCKED!  “Is that what we did?”  Um… yeah!  But then I was thinking… and maybe not.  The definition given on dictionary.com is to run off secretly to be married. Hmmm… there was no secret.  We just didn’t announce it and got married in city hall with 2 weeks notice.  I’m still a little torn.  Eloped or not?  Who knows?!?!  We are married that’s what matters!

Wedding Feet!

There were a few key elements of our wedding that I already had planned in my head.  This was long before we decided to get married at city hall, but even when we made that choice I wasn’t willing to give them up!  The biggest thing was that I really wanted to wear some amazing bright shoes!  I wanted satin shoes in bright blue (not navy), bright green, or sunshine yellow. 

It was pictures like these that made me unwilling to compromise!

My Amazing Pink Shoes!

My Blue Wedding Shoes

acp by Alex Cejka Photography.

These are the kinds of pictures that I stumbled on over the months leading up to the wedding.  I was in love with the idea! 

 I knew I had seen them somewhere, I just didn’t know where.  I looked and looked and looked.  Lots of places had navy (yuck).  Not at all the look I was going for.  A bunch of places also had purple, which in theory, would have been great but I have an unreasonable dislike of the color purple.  I was frustrated!  I had such a specific vision and NOTHING existed!  Eventually I went to a bridal shoe place that is super close to our house.  My first question was “can you have these ready in a week?”  Lucky for me they said of course!!!  They had tons of shoes that would have worked great.  I tried on lots and decided on two pairs.  I wanted a pair of flats for the ceremony and the standing pictures.  Mr. G is a bit shorter than me.  He doesn’t mind at all but I figured it would be better if I wasn’t 6 inches taller than him for the pics and when he went to kiss me.  And a pair of super cute heels for the awesome sitting pics.

Once I had made my decision all I had to do was pic a color!  Wait… a color?!?!  I had been so wrapped up in finding shoes that I hadn’t thought about what my first choice would have been.  I ran to a Joann Fabrics to get some ribbon that I planned on making in to a headband.  This way my shoes were bound to match if I gave them a swatch.  I chose BRIGHT yellow and it was perfect!  I was so relieved once I knew that the shoes were taken care of! 

The next task was finding the socks for Mr.G.  That is another thing I didn’t think would be so hard.  Again, I was mistaken.  We went everywhere!  No luck!  Finally we went where we should have gone first, Macy’s!  We walked in and they had at least 5 pairs of yellow socks, including the perfect argyle pair!

This was the final result:

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I can’t wait for our photographers pictures!!!  This one is fantastic but I think his will be even better!  It was sooo much work finding these, but sooo worth it!

Finding a town hall worthy dress!

Immediately when we decided we were getting married at town hall I started looking for a dress.  The dresses I had found already were completely inappropriate for a town hall wedding.  I didn’t want a big long train and over the top dress for this event.  Instead I was looking for something that was tea length and white or ivory.  I didn’t think it would be that difficult to find.  Boy was I mistaken!!!  This is also partially because I had something very specific in mind.  Tea length with a full skirt.  Apparently, tea length isn’t  the style right now.  I had already spent too much time looking through wedding magazines, so I had visions of dresses that were made to be  wedding dresses.

Any of these dresses would have been perfect:


And then there were these!!!  These dresses are by Stephanie James Couture.  These stupid/amazing dresses made it so hard for me to find a dress!  All I wanted was one of these!  That doesn’t happen in 2 weeks!  The best thing about these dresses is that she sells petticoats in all sorts of colors to go under the dresses, which I am madly in love with!





So all of these dresses made it sooo much harder to find something I was happy with.  That is the choice we made when we decided to only give ourselves 2 weeks to plan.  After a week and a half of desperately searching I had a genius idea!!!  Why not alter the Watters and Watters dress I already owned?  When I say alter, I mean me actually cutting my dress and sewing it.  Yes, as crazy as that is, I decided to alter my dress myself.  I can sew capably but not SUPER well.  I was still confident I could do it, so I did!!!

That was a terrifying thing to do.  This dress was made so beautifully.  I pinned and pinned and pinned.  When I was at the point where I needed to make the first cut in the dress, I felt like I was going to throw up.  I had to take a minute and calm down.  I was so afraid I was going to regret doing this.  I didn’t!  It was a ridiculous amount of work but it turned out perfectly!  Who knew wedding dresses have so many layers?   I couldn’t have done it with out Mr. G.   I tried on the dress and had him remeasure to make sure it was straight about 9,000 times.  He was a life saver!!!

This is what the dress looked like before (try to ignore the worst picture ever taken of me):

This is what it looked like after:


  I was super proud of myself.  The dress looked fantastic!  It wasn’t exactly what I had in mind  it worked! 

Our Wedding!

It seems strange calling it a wedding.  It most definitely was not what you think of when you say the word wedding, but it was ours and it was perfect! 

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Amidst our planning process, after being engaged for 3 months, I called Mr. G at work one day and said “are we doing anything the weekend of June 19th?”.  Obviously, the answer was no.  “Excellent!  We should get married on that day.  Can you make that happen?”  Mr. G works in government so it was his job to find someone to marry us.  Apparently they don’t normally marry people on Fridays.  Huh, weird.  He made some calls and we had a friend, who also happens to be the mayor of a near by town, marry us.  It worked out wonderfully.  We gathered a few friends up and alerted our families.  Our families were super excited we were getting married and they knew that we were having some difficulties planning the wedding so they weren’t too surprised.  In the next few entries I will share specific details of our mini wedding!

Change of Plans! We eloped!

So things don’t always go according to plan.  In our case, it was just a huge amount of stress and issues with financing that changed our original plan.  We decided that we would just go to town hall and get married… so we did!  It was wonderful!  I took the Watters and Watters dress that I already owned and altered it to be tea length.  It was perfect for the occasion.  Everything about how our wedding turned out was wonderful.  In the small amount of time I had to make some plans there were a few details that I was able to pull together that I am in love with.  

First, I did my own flowers and they were amazing (if I might say so myself). 

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I’m pretty impressed with  my floral arranging abilities! 

I said in a past post, that I wanted to have a locket with a picture of my grandmother pinned to my flowers.  I got my locket and it was perfect!

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This next picture is my absolute favorite!

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Who knew that it would be so difficult to find yellow argyle dress socks?!?!  It was totally worth the work!


Everything was perfect!  I am officially a Mrs!!!

In Loving Memory Of…

My fiancee is a die hard Yankees fan and a die hard democrat.  Those are the two things that are most pronounced about him.  They are also two things that my grandmother would have HUGELY appreciated.  She was both of those things as well.  I adored her.  She was always my biggest fan.  She was the smartest human being I have ever met.  She passed away on June 10th  of last year.  She had been battling with cancer and had been too sick to meet Mr. G.  It makes me sad every day that they were not able to meet.  I would have sat and read the newspaper while they heatedly discussed politics and watched the Yankees.  It makes me sad that she will not be there when I marry him.  I decided that I want to have her involved in some way.  I found locket brooches that I thought would be perfect.  I want to pin the locket to my flowers with a picture of her.

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I loved this one which was handmade.  I found it on etsy in Basil The Cats shop.


My other option was:

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This one is made by 1928 and I found it on their website.


Although I like the way the second one looks better, I think my grandmother would have liked the first one.  I also appreciate that it is handmade.  Makes me like it even more!  So I think my decision is made and I am going to order the second one!!

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Venue Hunt! Pt. 1

Oh venues, how you pain me.  Eh, it really hasn’t been all that bad.  In the beginning, when we thought we were only going to have 75 people it was HORRIBLE!  Everywhere had minimums of 100 people and we were bummed about it.  However, our guest list has grown… and grown a little more, so now we are somewhere between 100 and 125 people that we actually expect to attend.  We started visiting venues a while ago. 

Our first visit was to Coral House in Baldwin, NY (www.coralhouse.com).  We both hated it immediately.  It’s a nice enough building but since Mr. G goes to a million fundraisers a year it just seemed like a place you have a fundraiser…not my wedding.   They have a room that they would CRAM our guests in to instead of allowing us to have the bigger room.  It smelled a little like a funeral home and just wasn’t what we were looking for.  My visions of grandiosity just didn’t fit.


Coral House… It looks better than it actually is.


Our next visit was to the Nassau County Art Museum (http://nassaumuseum.com/specialoccasions.htm).  Oh how we loved the museum.  It was fantastic!  Everything about it was perfect!  They leave the museum open for  your guests during  your wedding!!!  That’s fantastic!  The formal gardens where they have the ceremonies are beyond amazing and the cocktail hour options were fantastic.  The menus were also amazing.  Mr. G and I were both in love… until we saw the price tag.  It was sadly out of our very modest budget.  We could have made it work if we had no other expenses but weddings have LOTS of other expenses so no good.  We resigned ourselves to the fact that it was simply not possible.  We longingly talked about it for a week… or two… or three, but now we have moved on. 😦





The museum gets 4 pictures because it is so fantastic!

We also went to the Hamlet at Wind Watch in Hauppauge (http://www.hamletwindwatch.com/weddings.htm)  It was fine, but not fantastic.  They were very helpful and attentive, which was very nice.  The biggest plus was the fact that there is a Marriott, essentially, right next door.  It is nice not to have to worry about your guests and if they will make it to their hotel in one piece.  Other than that it was unimpressive.


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That same day we also went to see the Bayview House at Captain Bill’s in Bay Shore, NY (http://www.captainbills.com/catering.htm).  At first, Mr. G was soooo disgruntled.  We pulled up and his exact words were “Seriously?!?! Captain Bill’s?”  Once they took us inside he was sitting there scoffing under his breath… which I thought was hilarious.  When they started to show us around they took us out of the restaurant to a whole separate building that is fantastic.  We loved the space!  Most of the reason I loved it was because it was huge and open.  The women who helped us was less than concerned with us.  She didn’t really give us any information unless we asked.  She seemed to be a little put out that we were there.  She handed us a packet with the menu options in it and dismissed us after we were shown the room.  Even though she was terrible, we still liked the space alot and the price was not unreasonable.  After that I was excited.  We had found a space that we could live with!  It wasn’t perfect but I could definitely see my vision coming to fruition in the Bayview House.

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The Bayview House


That was the first of three trips to view venues.  I will write about the other in subsequent entries.

If anyone is interested in the specific prices we were quoted let me know and I will absolutely tell you.  Atleast that way I can save a bride or two unnecessary trips.

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